Monday, January 30, 2012

I Write Because Seals Are Just Too Cute

Writing has been hard for me lately. I’ve written so many letters home, talked to so many people on the phone, edited so many papers, that I feel as if words are dead. I just want to crash on the air mattress that our new host, V., has provided for us. But as that thought enters my mind, a little voice says, “You have to at least tell them about the seals.”
La Jolla has a little inlet along its rocky shore, a sheltered area where parents take their children to swim… until the seals move in. From a manmade levy, I saw harbor seals up closer than I ever have before. They lounged on rocks and sand, fat and shiny, on their backs or sides, occasionally moving to situate their blubbery bodies, rub their webbed feet together, or yawn with a great twitching of their long white whiskers. A baby, trying to nurse its mother, rolled her over like a sausage as it tried to find the teat. Nearby in the water, pups and adults alike played and fished in the water, their heads bobbing in and out of the sunset ripples. I wish my camera could capture their silly beauty. I wish that my words could describe them the way they deserve.




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Saturday, January 28, 2012

Sailboat Couchsurfing

When Elizabeth from couchsurfing said she could fit us into her 34’, I assumed she meant a trailer. It turns out she meant a sailboat. Docked in one of San Diego’s many marinas, she sets up camp in tight living quarters, and isn’t afraid to stuff that space with friends. When she first handed us a key to the docks so we could come and go as we pleased, I had no idea how intense the next few days would be.
Mary and I have a double bed on the boat with a narrow aisle beside us, and another couchsurfer (Joe, who just biked across America on a whim), crams into the corner berth. Our days have been spent rambling around various neighborhoods of San Diego. Pacific Beach has a McDonald’s with reliable wi-fi. Coronado Island has sparkly sand. A marine on the bus struck up a conversation. Elizabeth took us out sailing (that deserves its own blog, with pictures). Our evenings have been spent with Elizabeth’s friends.
These friends are intense and jovial. Long-haired Murph is a vegan chef who never wears shoes and searches people’s faces with piercing eyes. Tall Neeno, with the swagger and smarts of a con man, has jerry-rigged his smartphone to change the music on the juke box of a bar halfway across town. Spencer and Bill are weathermen for the navy who have traveled the world. Britney’s voice sounds like a cartoon character and she is trying to lay off the booze. Altu is a sweet-smiling Turkish immigrant who is trying to meet more couchsurfing people. And Carrie, not a friend, is a constantly-drunk-and-stoned foundling who wanders over to Elizabeth’s boat uninvited, just to make things more interesting. These people have been in and out through the evenings, bearing alcohol, guitars, joints, LED-light-up hoodies, vegan burritos, and countless stories of their strange sea-faring lives. It’s been a whirlwind. Elizabeth makes soup and spaghetti. I drink Coke and tea so I don’t have to refuse every drink she offers me. The weekends are for partying. I realize I’m not much of a partier. We cram into small spaces and talk about human connection in a world of technology. We talk about boats. We talk about how nobody can poop on a boat. We talk about beer and Europe and why there's not racism in Istanbul and the different kinds of seasickness. Every night I curl up exhausted.
At night the boat sighs and creaks and in the distance sea lions bark. When I’m on solid ground, I feel like I’m still moving, still snuggled under covers in the blackness of night, hiding from a terror I can’t put into words. The sea is close here. The people are restless. The nights are dark. I will remember this time forever.
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Friday, January 27, 2012

A Poem

Looking in a mirror of selfless love is horrifying.

Realizing your own fear is horrifying.

Understanding what you feel is horrifying.

The boat creaks in the night. My body sweats beneath the comforter.

Dawn will never come.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Songs at a Hostel

This morning, I sat down at the worn upright piano in the hostel common room and began playing. After playing once through a medley of a Pirates of the Caribbean theme, Scarborough Fair and Greensleeves, I glanced behind me to see two middle-aged gentlemen watching eagerly. My plan to find someone to talk to had worked.
Stephen and Daniel were their names. Stephen wore a polo shirt and shorts, his face lined but his hair not yet graying. Daniel kept his sweat pants rolled halfway up his calves, walking barefoot, and had a grizzly white beard trailing down from his chin. I convinced Stephen to bring down his guitar, and when he had tuned his Martin to the woefully off-key piano, he played “Summertime” by Gershwin. He had a nice country voice without any annoying twang. We played “Amazing Grace” together, and Mary joined in, as well as Daniel. Mary’s voice was beautiful. Daniel’s voice was not (it reminded me of Louis Armstrong if Louis Armstrong couldn’t sing), but he was enthusiastic. We sang through some folky songs, some bluesy songs, some James Taylor, some Gershwin. Sunlight poured through the windows as bewildered Europeans walked in and out of the common room, some smiling at us, some picking up their plates and leaving to avoid the caterwauling.
Daniel and Stephen were disappointed to hear that we were leaving the hostel this morning. I do wish we could have stayed for two or three nights, but my current budget doesn’t allow that, even though it’s only $19 a night. Not having money does have its downsides. Still, I was glad to spend the morning with some fellow travelers, singing songs and sharing the gift that has no boundaries: music.
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Tuesday, January 24, 2012

California, Through Reborn Eyes

It has almost been two years since I last visited southern California, but when I stepped from the connecting hallway from the airplane into the airport, I pulled in a deep breath, and Mary and I both exclaimed, “It smells like San Diego!” Their airport is imbued with the smell of fresh pastries, an aroma that tripped a wire in my head and spilled out memories. From the (long and roundabout) walk from the airport to the hostel, I kept on remarking on every tree, bush, stoplight, and fast food restaurant I remembered from last time. Just as I remembered, that Jack-in-the-Box where we ate that one time! Oh, and I remember those kinds of trees! And this pavilion in this park!
Most of all, I remembered the kind of yellow wildflower that first inspired me to lift my depressed head out of the mud and look toward God. When I saw the slope covered in them, casual as dandelions, I felt a blaze of joy. By His grace I’m stronger, and more content, and slowly regaining everything that I thought I had lost two years ago. By His grace, I’ve already enjoyed my trip much more than I ever thought possible two years ago.
Today has been delight— in cloud-shadows on the desert, in snowy mountains seen from the plane, in conversations with strangers, in walks with my sister, in eating supper at a colorful burger joint, in making my bed at the hostel, and in travel plans working out. Today has been a day of goodness. I can’t wait for the rest of the trip.
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Monday, January 23, 2012

Packing Light

There’s never enough time for me to finish everything I want to finish before a trip. However, this time, I’ve been happy that packing has gone smoothly. I have just a few more items to add, and then I’ll be done.
Many people have wondered how I fit all my necessities for multiple months into this:

To sate your curiosity and give you some hints on packing yourself, here is my complete packing list. Hope it helps.
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Quart-sized ziplock (for carrying liquids 3 ounces or less per TSA guidelines)
Deodorant
Shampoo (doubles as laundry detergent)
Coconut oil (functions as both lotion and hair conditioner) 
Toothpaste
First aid kit (Band-Aids, gauze, tweezers)
Toenail clippers (also for fingernails)
Floss
Disposable razor 
Makeup (only eye shadow and lip balm)
A bottle of PMS pills and Ibuprofen
Chapstick
Brush
Comb
Shoelaces (I’m paranoid about not having shoelaces when I need them)
Orthodontic retainer
Toothbrush
Feminine products
Sunblock (essential if you’re as fair-skinned as I am)
Tissue (emergency toilet paper!)
Trash bags (good for holding stinky clothes)
Ziplock bags (useful in many different ways)
Trail mix (I like almonds)
Spoon/Fork/Knife (plastic to be lightweight, but I wash and reuse them)
Metal water bottle
Cell phone, flash drive, iPod, laptop, headphones, camera, and all the batteries, cables and chargers used to power them (Heavy, but useful)
Mini flashlight (useful for rummaging through your bag at hostels after lights out)
Portable Bible (maintaining my faith is important on the road)
Paperback books (I like to bring a new one, an old favorite, and one that I hope will blow my mind)
Travel journal (like a diary, but full of tickets, postcards, bus schedules, and travel brochures)
Backpack
Foldable tote bag
Fanny pack (Yes, it’s dorky. But it’s also handy since girl pants have tiny pockets!)
Laundry bag (I can throw all my clothes in it and leave it at the hostel to lighten my pack for a day trip)
Large lock (for the lockers at hostels)
Luggage lock (a little TSA-approved one)
Money belt (for keeping my debit card, ID and passport safe beneath my clothing)
Compass/whistle (a handy little gadget to wear when trying to navigate or when trying to draw attention to yourself because that creepy guy is too close for comfort)
Pens and mechanical pencils
A baggies containing a large needle, a spool of thread, tape, safety pins, stamps, and envelopes (all of which have come in handy at some point)
Umbrella (useful for protection against both rain and sunshine)
Money, ID, debit card, a couple personal checks, insurance card, Hostelling International membership card
Back wrap (This takes up quite a lot of room, but I have a bad back)
1 pair tennis shoes
Slightly more dressy shoes (which can still be worn as tennis shoes, though not as comfortably)
Flip-flops (handy for tide-pool exploring, chilling in the sun, and avoiding nasty shower floors)
Sarong (possibly the most useful thing I ever take on a trip— functions as skirt, dress, beach wrap, warm scarf, beach towel, regular towel, picnic blanket, sheet, head covering, bag, privacy hanging and so much more)
Tank top (doubles as an undershirt)
1 long sleeved shirt 
Sweater 
1 short-sleeved shirt 
3 pairs socks, 4 pairs underwear (Seriously, this is all you need. If you do your laundry every day, you can get away with so much)
2 bras (I like sports bras because they fold down smaller and double as undershirts and swimsuit tops)
1 t-shirt
2 pairs jeans (If I had the money, I’d buy much lighter polyester-blend cargo pants instead. But hey, I found jeans that fit me at Goodwill.)
1 pair full-length leggings 
Rain-resistant jacket
Shorts (double as swimsuit bottom)
Warm hat (if the weather warrants it)
Crusher hat (I prefer this over a ball cap because it covers my ears)
Bandanas (another awesome multipurpose item: napkin, hankie, small sack, washcloth, head covering, scarf, etc.)
Belt
Hairbands 
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Saturday, January 21, 2012

Party Without the Booze

Last night, I threw myself and my sister a party. When freezing rain began to patter down, I didn’t know who would show up, but to my happy surprise, a good amount came over, and thus followed an evening typical of our wild-and-crazy parties: tons of yummy food (potluck style), animated conversation, word games, loud singing, and copious amounts of pictures with people looking drunk. All this occurs without the aid of alcohol or any sort of drug— the hardest drink anyone took was A&W Root Beer. Most of the guests went home, but almost half a dozen people simply crashed on the living room floor after I gave them a pile of pillows and blankets. There were no hangovers this morning.
From time to time, I hear people talking about drinking, and it makes me sad that it’s the only way most people can loosen up and have a good time. I don’t need any booze to help me enjoy myself; in fact, when I was volunteering at the hostel in Florida, my friends kept on checking to make sure I wasn’t sneaking the happy-water. I don’t have any moral objections to drinking, but when someone has to rely on a crutch in order to have a good time, something is out of perspective.
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Thursday, January 19, 2012

Locks of Love

Today, I had my first professional haircut. Yes, it’s true: I’ve relied on my dear mother (and lately, sister) to trim my hair whenever it was getting too unruly. I decided one day that I wanted a professional haircut. But, of course, I didn’t want to pay for one— think of what I could do with all that money I’d waste on hair! That’s when I learned that a lot of salons will give you a free haircut if you donate your hair to Locks of Love. Thus, I determined that I was going to grow out my hair and get my first professional cut at the same time.
That was three years ago. Yes, I have waited three years so that I could donate a full twelve inches and still have enough hair to put into a ponytail. Finally, today, I was ready.


The women at Fantastic Sam’s were nice, and the stylist, Christy, spent longer than I expected trimming my hair up so it would look just right. I looked at the four ponytails she snipped from my locks: they looked thin and a little scraggly, but I hoped the people at Locks of Love could find a use for them anyway. After I bid Christy goodbye and left, I tried to tie my hair back in a ponytail and laughed that I had already forgotten there is only a tiny poof of hair when I bind it up.
I’ll miss my long “hippie hair,” I love the sensation of swishing my hair around when I swing my head side to side. However, mostly I’m excited about how much easier it will be to take care of when I hit the road in five days!
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Tuesday, January 17, 2012

On Wanting and Doing

"Either you want to write or you don’t, and thinking that you want to write really doesn’t mean anything. There are lots of things I think I’d like to do, and yet if I don’t actually make the time and effort to do them, they don’t get done." ~John Scalzi
A good deal of my life has been spent listening to people ramble about the stories that they’re going to write. Are they interesting? Definitely. Could they be wonderful, engaging novels and plays? Of course. However, I often find myself getting impatient when I listen to them expound on all the cool and amazing things they’ll write. Very few of these people have ever actually written more than a few pages.
Although it’s fine to have pipe dreams, I get annoyed when people say that they want to do something, and then take not a single step toward actually doing it. In general, I’m very self-motivated and practical, but I too have slipped into the deadly trap of the word “can’t.” 
A life-changing moment occurred on my Epic Trip Out West. I was talking to my second cousin about how my mom wrote several books because she had researched the market and figured out what kind of book would sell well. As a creative, my mind doesn’t work that way. “I just can’t do that,” I said, shaking my head.
“No,” my second cousin said bluntly. “You just won’t.”
His comment hit me like a slap in the face (I believe my response was “Ouch”). If I really wanted to, I could become a successful freelance author. Nothing was holding me back. However, that was the moment I realized that, at this point in my life, being a successful freelancer is not my desire. No, I want to travel.
It was the first time that it occurred to me that I was not, in fact, career-oriented. And if I wanted to keep traveling, I would have to make my writing talent serve that greater passion, rather than the other way around. Fortunately, travel and writing coincide beautifully, so I’m able to sustain both passions, each one inspiring the other. It made me happy to realize that I’m not trying to be a full-time freelancer— I’m choosing to be a travel writer instead. By focusing on what I can do rather than what I wouldn’t, I freed myself and opened my world.
Too many people are stuck, as I was, in denial about the true nature of the “can't.” The number one excuse for not writing a novel is, “I can't do it; I just don’t have enough time.” This is a lie the person tells himself so he doesn’t have to hold himself responsible. It’s not that he doesn’t have time; he won’t make time. People often have this idea that things happen magically. They don’t. They happen when you realize that you truly want something, and actually do something about it.
Right now, I want to go to Europe. So I’m looking into travel insurance, reading about travel tips and stories, checking plane tickets online, working out timetables, brainstorming Europe-related article ideas, looking for phrasebooks, and trying to get myself as fit as possible. It’s a lot of hard work, but I’m working through the logistics of my trip in a tangible way. It’s not a sure thing, but I’m going to try as hard as I can to make it happen. If you have no concrete steps to accomplish your goal, it’s probably not a goal.
“I wish I could draw.” Pick up a pencil and draw.
“I wish I could take a trip.” Get out a book about budget travel and join an online travel community.
“I wish I had more friends.” Call up some acquaintances and invite them over to bake cookies or play a board game.
“I wish I was in better shape.” Find a buddy who thinks the same thing and commit to exercising together and eating healthier.
“I wish I could write a novel.” Then do it. It’s time-consuming, but if you enjoy it, it’s not that hard.
In anything you want to do, find the first step, and take it. Stop wishing, and start doing.
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Monday, January 16, 2012

On the Sensitive Issue of Weight

I used to tell people, when I was trying to lose weight, “I’m trying to lose weight.” After after eighty million variations on the responses, “I hate you,” “You’re too skinny,” “You have a wonderful body!” and “Are you anorexic?” I stopped using those words. As many times as I tried to explain that I’m not too skinny (I’m on the high end of healthy weight for my height and bone structure), I have no self-image problems about my appearance (I’m rather fond of my long-limbed body), and I like food way too much to ever have an eating problem, people of all shapes and sizes vehemently shoot down the idea that a girl of my size should ever have to think about losing weight.
Weight and fatness are right up there with religious exclusivity as taboo subjects in today’s culture. A few people have spoken out about the beauty of a large girth, that a woman can be attractive at any size or shape. The hipless boy-bodied models on the magazines claim otherwise. I think women especially think of weight in terms of attractiveness: skinny = pretty, fat = ugly. So when I utter the forbidden words, “I’m trying to lose weight,” the women around me interpret that to mean, “I’m trying to become more attractive.” Thus the flurry of jealousy, concern, and assurances that I’m beautiful just the way I am. Women heavier than me see it as an indictment on the way they look. Women skinnier than me see it as a competition. But although I’d like to see my pudgy belly go away, for me losing weight is not at all about how I look.
That’s why I changed the way I phrased it. When I’m trying to lose weight, I say, “I’m trying to get in better shape.” This is much less threatening to everyone, and it’s also a more accurate description of what I hope to accomplish by losing weight. I’ve put on about fifteen pounds over the past several months. It’s not very noticeable because I’m so tall, but I feel it every time I walk. Carrying an extra fifteen pounds takes a toll after a while. I get out of breath easily. That’s fine when I’m talking a short two-miler with my mother, but what happens when I’m lugging a thirty-pound backpack up a mountain in Oregon? Every pound counts, whether I’m carrying it on my back or in my belly. I don’t care what size or shape my friends are, as long as they have the energy and means to live life to the fullest. In my case, it means being strong and lean enough to hike twenty miles in a day. When I can’t do that, I haven’t reached my full potential.
So if I slip up sometime and say, “I’m trying to lose weight,” please forgive these highly offensive words. What I really mean is, “I want to enjoy life as fully as I can.”
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Sunday, January 15, 2012

A Surprising Thought That Should Not Be Surprising

Today, I realized that different people have different starting points for their personalities. It’s not always a varying point of the same view: sometime it’s a completely different view. Not everyone has a slightly different angle on the way I think. In short, some people are not like me.
For some reason, this came as quite a shock.
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Saturday, January 14, 2012

Back from Carolina

The last few days have been a whirlwind of final goodbyes to the beach, Carolina pines, antebellum towns, gleaming Atlanta buildings, Tennessee hills, and miles upon miles of highway rolling beneath our wheels. The last day on the beach was sunny, the water sparkling and frothing with foamy chemicals washed up by the rainstorm the night before. We walked along the shore, watched the morning take shape, and finally splashed into the surprisingly tepid water for a while. Then we were off on the road home.
We drove relatively short spurts every day, taking leisurely meals at Chick-fil-A and Subway, playing word games for hours, and following a detour so we could jump out of the car just across a state line and yell, “We’re in Alabama!” Yesterday we stopped to visit some cousins, Emily and Rachel, who I hadn’t seen in at least fifteen years. As with the other family I’ve re-met over the past year, we got along easily. I played with their kids (and the amazing toys), ate a yummy supper Emily made us, and stayed up late with an intense game of Scattergories. This morning, Emily sent Mary and me on our way with a massive bag full of clothes to try on. 
Although I’ve enjoyed this trip immensely, I felt the tug to be back home. It hardly feels like we’ve been gone— it’s been a year and a half since I’ve taken a trip of this length, so it flew by. However, I know that I’ll be heading right back out in ten days, and for much longer (in fact, I don’t know how long I’m going to be gone on my trip to California and Oregon). I want to spend time with my parents and friends and brothers before my sister and I take to the air toward the west coast. The drive today felt long even though it was only about seven hours. I listened to a lot of music and looked at the atlas to see where we were. Midwest landscape flew by. The sunset glowed over snowy cornfields and through the black silhouettes of trees, framed by the branches like a stained-glass window. At last we pulled up to my driveway, where I saw Christmas tree lights blinking in the living room. We all piled out of the van and spent the next few hours swapping stories and showing off shells. I’m tired in the way that makes me want to snuggle down into my own bed and savor the feeling of sinking into sleep.
It was a very good trip.


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Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Tourists in New Bern



Yesterday, we took advantage of the quickly-clearing weather to take a day trip to New Bern, a place that we visited a lot when I was a kid because my grandparents lived there. We still have relatives in town, and we met with my aunt and uncle at Smithfield’s and caught up over heaps of Eastern Carolina barbecue, hush puppies, baked beans and fries.

Perched at the confluence of the Neuse and Trent rivers, New Bern was settled by Swiss and Germans in 1710. Today, it’s a historic area with a pretty downtown area marked by churches, tasteful tourist shops, blossoming trees and southern mansions. We parked the car near the square and walked around, past stores selling teddy bears, home furnishings, seashells and pilates lessons. Old holiday decorations lingered in the windows, including an elaborate mural featuring excerpts of Dickens’s A Christmas Carol. Our first destination was the waterfront of the Neuse River, which looks more like a bay from its still waters and seashells we could see through the clear water. We wandered along a walking path next to a yatch harbor, then emerged at Union Point Park and strolled by the water, solid blue under the sky.
As Mary and Ryan watched the dozens of birds bobbing on the water and fluttering through the air— herring gulls, mallards, coots, and hoards of pigeons— Mary said, “I wish we had some bread.” A minute later she glanced over the boardwalk and saw a loaf of stale bread floating by the shore. We all said she should have wished for a million bucks instead. C’est la vie. At any rate, the magical bread provided a lot of entertainment for all of us. 
No trip to New Bern would be complete without a visit to the birthplace of Pepsi-Cola. I don’t usually drink soda, so I just sat with the others in the café area and watched a documentary of Pepsi’s history, beginning in 1898 with the tagline “Pepsi-Cola: Delicious. Healthful.” We chatted with the help for a while, and they recommended us to the perfect place for dessert: the Cow Café. The ice cream was all homemade, with bovine-themed flavors such as “Cowpachinno” and “Almoond Joy.” I bought a double-decker cone of chocolate “Gooey Cowphooey” and “Peanut Udder Cup.” Anyone who’s ever worked on a dairy farm would gag at the thought, but I, a city kid who has never milked a cow, ate the ice cream with abandon. The guy at the counter gave us heaping servings, too. We tipped him well.
A search for the post office led us to another part of the waterfront, where a wetlands restoration project was in effect. We strolled across the boardwalk and watched a flock of coots dabbling around nearby as the sky took on pre-sunset colors. It was a relaxing afternoon of tourism, and I went to bed content with where I was and how the day had gone. 
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Tuesday, January 10, 2012

An Excursion for Fish, History, and Pizza

1/9/2012
The Pine Knoll Shores Aquarium was good when I was a kid, but now it’s great. As I mentioned yesterday, the aquarium features a range of North Carolina native creatures, from the mountain streams of the west to the offshore ecosystems of the Outer Banks. When the four of us arrived around noon, we found the parking lot nearly deserted, which promised a much more relaxed experience than we ever got in summer or spring.
We read about mountain streams and the creatures that inhabit them, playing “find the frogs” in the little tanks, and ended up by the large river otter tank, which gave underwater views of these sleek mammals. On land they walk with a ridiculous bobbing, as if their midsections are too long for their legs, but once they jump in the water they transform into creatures of superb grace, slipping through the water in a flurry of silver bubbles. One of the three otters loved swimming upside down, flipping himself over with a kick of his back paws before diving to the bottom. We watched them for a good half hour before moving on.
The journey of water continued— from mountain streams to estuaries, grass flats, and saltwater marshes. We took a brief detour to walk outside and view some of the surrounding nature area. The water, at low tide, exposed the mud and tidal grass down to its roots. A few snowy egrets perched on the dead trees nearby, and we watched the tiny minnows swimming in the inches-deep water. Chased inside by the cold, we continued our journey.
Another highlight was the stingray and guitarfish petting area. The last time I had been there, it was a crowded August day, and the poor rays were clustered to the inner part of the tank, buried in the sand, begging with every ounce of their flat-fish bodies that the tourists would go away. Today, however, they swam freely, swooping by to investigate our hands. One of them even took a liking to Ryan. I have always been fascinated by rays, and I took a special interest into the guitarfish, who looked like a sandy, mottled fish that had been run over with a steamroller. They felt bumpy to the touch, while the rays felt smooth to the point of slimy. We chatted with the keeper, who told us that rays have an excellent sense of sight. I crouched down by the glass and looked one in the eye. I wondered how he perceived me, and if I was as fascinating to him as he was to me. 
We also got the chance to pet some horseshoe crabs, creatures of another eon, as well as hermit crabs and whelks. Fascinated, we looked at the displays of seahorses, pipefish, reef-fish and jellies. In good time, we reached the 306,000-gallon tank with the 65-foot-long viewing window. The water alone weighs over two million pounds, and a keeper informed us that there are over 800 creatures in the tank. We sat and watched the schools of fish the size of my torso, the clusters of smaller fish darting in and out, and the massive sharks— nurse with their tiny blank eyes and sand tigers with their open-mouthed stare and protruding teeth— drifting through. A green moray eel, six feet long, lurked in a corner and snaked out occasionally with mouth agape to impress the visitors. After a few minutes, we were surprised to see three divers enter the tank, floating in among the sharks to check… something (we never did figure out what). They waved at us, and Ryan played a game of paper-scissors-rock with one.

From the massive tank, we moved to displays highlighting the life on the miniature reefs that form on wrecks and piers (North Carolina’s coast is too sandy to support a true coral reef). I watched some jellyfish, fascinated by their tentacles, thin as strands of melted cheese. It looked as if the slightest touch could break them, yet these creatures— with no brain or heart— withstand the power of the ocean. 
Next I turned to admire a display featuring five lionfish, venomous fish with leafy fins and tiger-like stripes (was the name “tigerfish” already taken?). I followed one around the circular tank, watching his fins, intricate as leaves, move the water to let him propel forward. The delicate movement of his gills fascinated me. Mary came up beside me and I started to say, “They’re so beautiful.” As I spoke, the lionfish’s tail fin drifted right past my eyes. I caught every detail of that moment: the fine brown ribs, the translucent webbing as delicate as spiderweb, the dark spots like drops of acrylic. My last word choked, and I felt a sob of joy rising in my throat. Just yesterday, I had been sad that I don’t feel things as deeply as I used to. But joy comes at unexpected moments, even in lionfish fins.

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I didn’t want to go to Fort Macon. It was raining, and as far as I remembered, there was nothing to the fort except a shell of a brick building in the earth with nowhere warm or dry to sit. But I was outvoted three to one, and it’s a good thing I was. Not only was the fort full of indoor rooms with heating (I had forgotten the fort was closed last time we visited), but also contained interpretive displays, informational plaques, several creepy mannequins in Civil War uniforms, audio monologues about history and everyday life, and a video about the fort’s history. A veteran of three wars— the War Between the States, the Spanish-American War, and World War II— Fort Macon has been restored to a place where the memory of life in the 19th century is kept alive. 
The Confederates “captured” the fort in 1861 (really, they just marched up to the gates and told the single, unarmed caretaker to move to Beaufort) and held it for a year before the Union came to take it back. After a siege in which the Confederates were hopelessly outgunned, the 27-year-old commandant of the fort, Colonel Moses J. White, surrendered. There was a picture of him in one room. Clean-shaven, long-haired, with a handsome face and the hunted look of someone dealing with an untreatable disease (his epilepsy took his life two years after the siege), he looked like a man that I would like to meet someday. He seemed like a true Southerner, graceful, dutiful, and full of pride. 
As much as I admit that the Union winning the Civil War was a good thing, my heart always softens to the Confederates. I know these are my family roots, running deep into North Carolina and Virginia. I imagine my ancestors— poor as dirt or else horse thieves on the run from the law, as the records seem to show— sending their sons off to battle and praying for their safe return. As a child, I always thought that war would make more sense when I got older. The older I get, the less sense it makes.
Although the histories of conflict are interesting to me, I was most fascinated by the descriptions about everyday life in the fort. A display about laundry caught my attention. In the 1800s, washing clothes was an arduous task involving mending, specific sorting, a day of soaking, hand agitation and scrubbing, different chemicals for different kinds of discoloring, special handling when drying each kind of material, and the tricky technique of using an iron heated on a stove. It made me think about how much time and effort everything took just a century and a half ago. What would they think if they saw a washing machine, an electric stove or a smartphone? And how many of we modern people would not survive if we were dropped into the middle of antebellum North Carolina?

The sky had cleared a bit by the time we were finished walking through the displays, so we strolled along the top of the fort, trying to visualize where the Union cannons had been set. A chill, wet wind whipped around me, and I thought about the soldiers facing the sea and thinking of their sweethearts, their families, and what they would do when all this was over.
Safe in the warmth of the car, we trucked over to the mainland and found a Pizza Hut. As I chomped down on the Pepperoni Lover’s with extra cheese, I didn’t think about how long it would have taken to make this in the 1800s. My modern brain had taken over, a brain that consumes without thought, that has no connection to source of anything, be it food, supplies, or electronics. Now, back in the hotel room writing this blog, it makes me think. If I could live for a day like those in the Civil War, just a day, what would I learn?
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Yesterday was a day of knowledge, memory, delight and open-eyed wonder. It was a reminder of the beauty of creation, the hardship of life, and the breathtaking details that make everything worth learning.
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Monday, January 9, 2012

The Extraordinary Ecosystem

Something that has struck me over the past few days is the marvel of the ecosystem. Here is a habitat, a base set of rock and earth and weather and water, and here are the animals, plants, and microorganisms that thrive in it. All nature within this setting is adapted to its surroundings, and everything is connected to each other in breathtaking ways, a never-ending web of life.
Here is a whelk, a kind of sea snail that hunts clams and other smaller invertebrates. A seagull catches the whelk and eats it, leaving the shell behind. A hermit crab moves in for a year or so, then leaves the whelk to the waves. The shell is smashed by the waves upon the shore, drawn back, and smashed again, until it joins the beach as a grain of sand. A seagull dies, the other seagulls scavenge his flesh, and the ocean reclaims his bones and crushes them to sand, to join the remains of the whelk and the hermit crab and millions of other invertebrate leftovers, which are filtered by the bottom feeders, such as stingrays and guitarfish. Everything works together in a system that checks and balances and sustains the ecosystems for eons. 
It’s no wonder that environmentalists and conservationists work so hard to avoid significant changes to a habitat— one difference can upset the entire balance. However, these well-meaning scientists spend a great deal of their time telling people, with a vaguely threatening tone, that human interference always leads to destruction and death. Some of them imply, or say outright, that the world would be much better off if humans were not part of it. This is, of course, nonsense. If you’re an evolutionist, you believe that we are part of nature, so it’s our job to coexist with our fellow animals and continue to survive. If you are a creationist, you believe that we are stewards of the earth and should take care of it because God’s creation matters to Him. Either way, our goal should be to help the earth thrive— because when nature flourishes, so do we.
Today, the four of us visited a the aquarium, which leads visitors on a path starting with exhibits about wildlife of western NC, moving through a variety of displays until reaching a 306,000-gallon tank filled with fish of all kinds, including several sharks and a six-foot green moray eel (I will devote another blog to our visit). We took our time, giving me a chance to read the informational signs as well as watch the fish (and river otters!). 
Something that struck me was the variety of habitats that have been created by human interference: new ecosystems have appeared in reservoirs, piers, drainage ditches, and shipwrecks. Here were blatant examples of humans altering an ecosystem… and creating a new habitat for life to blossom. Humans affect our surroundings in different ways, but if we are wise, nature finds a way to fit in. The key is variety. Small ecosystems can eke along in a suburb of neatly-clipped lawns and saplings, but they thrive in a neighborhood of gardens. I firmly believe that the future of farming, and living conditions in general, is in permaculture: the idea that a farm or house/neighborhood should be an ecosystem to itself, a habitat where food and animals can grow in a way that is organic and harmonious. It’s based on the idea that we can take care of the land, as well as ourselves.
Habitats change, areas develop, ecosystems get caught in the middle— but human interference doesn’t have to have negative impact. If people can learn to be thoughtful of nature, rather than worshipping it or disregarding it, ecosystems will thrive everywhere. Every attempt we make to create an ecosystem, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.
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Sunday, January 8, 2012

Beach Day: a Story (Mostly) in Pictures

Once upon a time, I woke up to a warm sunny morning in January. It was the beginning of a perfect day.

After separate beach-walks, the four of us met up to go make sandwiches for lunch.

The couple who took our picture were feeding the seagulls cinnamon bread.

They gave us some bread so we could join in on the fun.


Can you tell that we're sisters?

We decided we wanted to take a "Po' Bear Plunge" into the frigid water.

Afterward, we couldn't feel our limbs, but we look pretty warm.

Ryan grilled hot dogs for supper, and we had a picnic.


Afterward we shivered in the evening breeze while eating popsicles and ice cream sandwiches.

The sunset speaks for itself.

We ended the day with a treat reserved for vacation— television!

                                                                        The End

Saturday, January 7, 2012

A Quest for Shells

The sun was gleaming and the tide was low, so Christian and Mary and I decided to hit up some bars— shell bars, that is. Armed with plastic bags and sharp eyes, the three of us set out for a five-mile-round-trip excursion to find the biggest and the prettiest seashells. I was more along for the ride than anything else, since I’ve never been a fan of scouring the beach in search of the perfect exoskeleton. Instead I opt to stare out at the ocean, watch the tiny sandpipers chase the waves, and admire the gems that my siblings find.
Our walk took us to the southwestern tip of the narrow island, a wide beach that rippled in tiny dunes, interrupted by some of the most picturesque shells I had ever seen. The shore dipped in and out, washed with swatches of water funneled into pools as the tide crept to its low point. We poked at the giant broken conch shells, looked at the dead jellyfish with meaty tentacles, and watched the ocean and sound water meet and transform into an emerald-blue. In many ways I wished I had brought my camera, so I could take a picture to try to share the sight of the watery clouds hanging in the watery sky reflected in the watery sand. In other ways, I was glad I wasn’t trying to capture it all in a lens. How could a camera trap the sensation of warm sun and cold breeze, the ever-changing hues of the sky and sea, the salty glitter of the rippling water, the screech of gulls and the shadows of pelicans soaring overhead? 
Christian and Mary both ended up with impressive finds, from a whole sand dollar (which unfortunately broke) to a full Scotch bonnet, the state seashell of North Carolina, which we had never found unbroken before. Here’s a sampling of Christian’s collection:


We returned to the hotel room bathed in sunshine and scrubbed by the saltwater breeze. Even though I had only picked up three tiny shells, I considered the search a great success.

~Lisa Shafter
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Friday, January 6, 2012

Beach Walks




At my request, Mary shook me awake at about seven this morning. The room was dark, the guys still asleep, but we had agreed to take a morning beach-walk together, and neither of us knew how soon the sun would be rising. I threw on some aqua shoes, grabbed a Clif bar and a bottle of water, buttoned up my jacket and was ready to go. Mary and I slipped outside into a nippy breeze and a sky that glowed with a rainbow of pastels. The distance from our hotel room to the ocean is less than a block, and we soon stepped into the fine white sand of the beach and began walking. 
After a few minutes, I pointed out a flock of seagulls far off on the eastern horizon. As Mary and I watched them, the uppermost tip of the sun leaped into the sky, a vivid pink that had us both staring for a moment until we remembered what our mother told us about not looking at the sun. Over the course of a few seconds, the massive pink orb had cleared the rim of the ocean and spilled golden light all over the water. 
Mary and I walked for a few miles, picking our way between the shells, watching the pelicans float in the waves like little brown sailboats, feeling the sun transform the world from golden to white, as the waves took on a green translucence and the ocean turned a soft marine blue. It was a good morning.
~Lisa Shafter
P.S. Here’s the blog about my morning beach-walk that I took the last time I visited North Carolina, a year and a half ago:
August 11th, 2010
A sunrise is nothing special. It happens every day, all day long, in some part of the world or another. But today I am 998 miles from home on the westerly rim of the Atlantic, which means that I have set my alarm to 6:00am in hopes of catching this ordinary phenomenon. I wake up surprisingly alert, eat two granola bars and step outside the hotel door.
The sky is the dim indigo that precedes the dawn: the color that makes nightmares dwindle into shadows. I stride down the sidewalk, past buzzing yellow lights, across the prickly grass and onto the wooden steps leading down to the beach. A damp and salty wind washes over me, making me shiver. In the minute it takes me to get from the door to the wind-painted sand, the sky has lightened. Pale pink stripes ornament the eastern firmament, promising a sunrise behind deep gray clouds. I begin to walk in that direction, toward a distant pier.
The sand clings to my feet and the waves fill my ears with a comfortable white noise of thunder and sibilance. I watch the sandpipers scurry along the tide line in a familiar routine: first they outrun the rim of each collapsed wave, their legs a blur too fast for the human eye. When the foam reached its peak and recedes, the birds dart into the shadow of water and drill for invertebrates, their beaks moving like tiny jackhammers. I see one squat in a skim of water and ruffle his mottled brown wings, starting the morning with a salty bath. 
Eventually the light begins to take shape. Wisps of cloud, the brushstrokes of an Impressionist painter, glow with pastel pink and gold. A splash of neon orange above the dark cloud-bank signals that the sun is creeping its way heavenward. In early morning, the ocean is colorless, gray upon shifting gray, but when the waves spill onto the shore, an extraordinary thing happens. The dull water transforms into a sheen of pastel sunrise, turning the whole beach into a vast glossy rainbow. In fading glory the waves light up the shore, then vanish into the sand. 
I’m almost to the pier now. It stands dark against the sunrise, hazy where the waves assault the pylons. I glance out at the waves again, then down at my feet as the   foaming water gallops over them. That’s when I feel warmth on my face beneath the brim of my crusher hat, and look up.
In an instant the sun has broken free of the dark mist, a hazy golden-orange globe hovering between two cloud-banks. Despite all my mother’s warnings about going blind, I find myself staring at first the orb, then its twin reflected in the backwash of the waves. I am silenced, eyes burning with the light. Before my retinas wither into ash, a shroud of the dark clouds billows over the sun again. I’ve arrived at the pier.
The corridor between the algae-stained wooden pylons has always reminded me of a magical tunnel from a fantasy world: it seems a narrow slice of the ocean, with waves forming out of nowhere to pummel the manmade structure. It’s a wonder that the crudely-carved wood can withstand the force of a body older than the world itself. I glance left and see a solidly-built man in his thirties wades beneath the pier, holding a metal rod with interlocking metal triangles on the end, forming some sort of stiff net. I ask him what he’s catching. “Sand fleas,” he says. “Cool,” I reply. “What are sand fleas?” He points to a bucket nearby and I look in to see a heap of what my family calls sand crabs, or sand fiddlers.
“Sand fleas” or “mole crabs,” as they are often called, seems like an unfair name for such pretty little crustaceans. Averaging the size of half a thumb, sand crabs’ shells are almond-shaped, gray with all sorts of color variations from subtle dark mottling to pastel purple and pink. Their pale legs stay tucked under their bodies, and tiny heads sport translucent eyes the size of pinheads, mounted on stalks. My sister taught me to catch them by watching the wet sand in the wake of a retreating wave: if the sand appears softly crosshatched, as if scored with many tiny Vs, then it’s probable that the crabs are burrowed beneath the surface, tiny eyes poking out to wait for the next wave. I’m fond of spotting their hideouts and delving my hands into the sand around them, letting the waves wash away the excess. If I’m lucky I’ll be rewarded with two palms-full of wriggling marvels tickling my fingers. I always let them go quickly, dropping them onto the tideline, where they burrow backwards and disappear into their habitat.
I take my leave of the crab-hunter. Noting a golden rim on the uppermost dark cloud in the east, I decide it’s time to turn back, since I’m not wearing any sunblock— I dare not face the ocean sun without protection. I turn and walk out of the thin shadow of the pier, gazing out at a chalky blue sky to the west. A few distant cumulus clouds give the horizon some flourish, but otherwise it is hazy and unbroken. I walk quicker, splashing through the shallows as the tide crawls up the bank.
The first sign that I should look behind me is the warmth on my calves, then the clear definition of my shadow stretching across the sand. I turn. The top half of the sun peers across the cloud-bank, simmering in gold so intense that my eyes feel scalded. The shape of an orb can’t contain the light: it spills out onto the clouds, pooling like liquid, ready to break its banks and flood the skies. A stillness overtakes the world. The waves grow muted; the sandpipers pause. Weeping has remained for the night, but I know what the morning will bring. I hold my breath.
With one final shimmer of suppressed joy, the sun breaks free of the cloud-bank. Sunrise. The clouds burst into flame. A column of light, shimmering like the heavenly host, in an instant pours down the receding waves and rushes over me. Just before I am overwhelmed and blinded, I catch a glimpse of the sky and ocean as one, a tapestry of molten gold.
With stinging eyes I turn away, blinking away the purple blotches swarming before my eyes. The sandpipers skitter along the shore, then take flight over the golden ocean. I am staggered, confronted by transcendent beauty that has swept along the rim of this planet from the moment God charged the sun to bring us daylight. Feeling small and unworthy and unspeakably blessed, I hurry back along the beach to the safety of my room.